Small Choices, Big Changes

Sunday, December 21, 2014

So often when I need to make a change in my life, I get super overwhelmed. This happens when it's time for me to start eating healthier, exercise more or break some old habit that has been unconsciously controlling me for years. Somewhere along the way I got the idea that in order to make any change at all, it has to be massive and then I get scared and I and end up taking no action at all.

Lately I've been playing with the idea that the way to make big changes is to start by making little ones.

What if the power to change actually lies in the little decisions that we make every day?

It can be as simple as noticing the things in your life that make you feel really good, the things that make you happy and then making the decision to do those things more.

For me its often the difference between staying up late to watch another episode of my favorite show on Netflix or curling up early with a good book. It's the difference between reaching for a bowl of steamed greens, instead of french fries or another cup of chai. It's the willingness to say no to things that might push me over the edge of doing too much and say yes to better self-care, more time with my friends and family and more time in nature. Its pausing to take a deep breath before dealing with my kids noisy fights. It's remembering that even 10 minutes of yoga and meditation is better than none at all.

Ive learned that my best days often begin with a long walk in the quiet mornings while the kids are still asleep. I’ve found that if I can just get myself up and moving, my outlook is brighter and a feeling of gratitude will permeate the rest of the day.

My commitment to making little changes is creating new habits and these new habits are adding up to the big changes that I have been working towards for years.

When I look at it this way it's not as easy for me to squirm out of what I need to do or to blame the busyness of my life.

Finally taking responsibility, I know that it's up to me every day, to make the choices that will lead to me living the life I actually want to live.

What are the little choices that you can make today, that might lead to big changes tomorrow?

Non-Attachment and Finding the Flow

Monday, December 08, 2014
The moment we try to cling to anything in our lives the quicker we will lose it. Whether it's a person, a thing or a state of being, the tighter we hold on, the less likely it is to remain with us.

Lately I've been playing with what happens when I relax my tendency to grasp and hold on to certain experiences or ways of being.

I am finding that the more I stop trying to control and instead trust the natural unfolding, the more energy and life force there is to infuse everything that is happening. It seems there is an opening, a greater freedom when we let things happen as they are meant to.

In the Yoga Sutras, the fifth yama (or ethical guideline) is Aparigraha. This translates as non-greed or non-grasping. It reminds us not to get attached to anything. It can be a powerful practice to notice the places where we get stuck and the things we want to hold on to and then work on unhooking our attachment to them.


When we stop grasping and clinging to experiences and things, it's like being n a river and letting go of the sides to allow ourselves to be carried gracefully downstream. Surrendering to the flow, we create space in our lives for fresh energy and new possibilities to come in. Then, the richness of each moment is revealed to us.

So, the next time you notice yourself trying to hold onto any thing, anyone or any particular way of feeling or being in the world, try staying as consciously aware as you can. Observe the situation as a witness. Unravel your attachments and just watch what happens.

Where you stumble, there lies your treasure. The very cave you are afraid to enter turns out to be the source of what you are looking for.

-Joseph Campbell

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